Lost in Costanza

This post is a lesson on one great way to go about getting some insight from one’s dreams. George Costanza, fool extraordinaire, I wish he came in my dreams. If you want to become a a philosopher you’ll get a PhD with Seinfeld : all the characters are obnoxious and …bigger than life .
After a session of Seinfeld (as often as possible), I can say with Somerset Maugham
“It’s a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything
but the best, you very often get it.”
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I’ve had the entire cast of Seinfeld in my dreams…

…including, to my chagrin, George Costanza…

The loser to end all losers!

Whether I like it or not, if he’s in my dreams, some part of him must represent some a part of me…

So what do I share with that sniveling, lazy, self-centered, fearful sycophant?

Please don’t answer…

Well, I do see one trait in common:

We want everything to be just right.


George celebrates the perfect parking space at the hospital.  He tries to combine sex, food, and TV for the perfect experience.  We know how these attempts will end: in disaster.

When he finds the perfect girlfriend, the perfection makes him so nervous that he destroys the relationship…

If you’re trying to maintain a state of perfection, of course you’re going to worry!  The perfect situation can not remain perfect.  Change is the nature of…

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4 thoughts on “Lost in Costanza

  1. But did Seinfeld and the gang ever get the best? I wonder if the neurotic focus on the man-hands-type defects prevented jerry from finding “the best.” Obviously the show would have sucked without it, but I don’t think I can whole-heartedly agree with Ms. Maugham. Perfection seems to be more a matter of perspective than an objective target against which everything else will be deemed less than perfect.

    My line would be:

    It’s a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you may never find it.

    • Hi Ben. If I understood correctly your comment: we agree. Remember the episode “the opposite”: if we do the opposite of the Seinfeld characters ( Seinfeld effect) we won’t get hanged up on other’s imperfections, shortcomings that much, we’ll become more complex not complicated, in the sense of becoming more nuanced with our responses to others and life, unlike all the characters in Seinfeld that try to bend the world to their whims, though I know it may work for some very lucky people 😉 : https://happyheuristics.wordpress.com/2013/02/10/icarus-versus-goldilocks/

      • Maugham’s quote is a paradox and makes us stop at asking what constitutes the best for us, from the inside out, in a somewhat roundabout way/process with its weird (ambiguous) syntax. It says at the same time “It’s a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you may never find it” , as you pointed out; and that the best is letting go of this ‘anything’ :strife, disharmony, misunderstanding, comparisons that bread envy, criticism, disappointment caused by too high expectations, pettiness etc.. : ‘the worst’ because it is the spark that may set fire for even worse, a flash in the pan. The “union of these opposites” may make you start to define what this “best” is truly for you and can be summed up as “loving what is”, a start or the end of this process (it’s all perfect as it is already). It’s a process; It’s an experience that brakes our logical automatic reactions [ as, obviously, you already know, Ben] and a heuristic methodology through paradoxes. That’s why I love this quote… and Seinfeld, in a different style, which shows our shortcomings, our imperfections, with the humor, the distance necessary to be able to bear them as we recognize our own- though we may cringe with delight- experiencing a little bit of the energy of the fool and learn when to take ourselves seriously and when not to take ourselves too seriously.

        Take care,


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